Understanding Relationships
We often use horoscopes to identify our strengths, weaknesses, potential and limitations; however, there is much more that we can utilise astrology for. The area of relationships is one such area, and in astrological language, this study is called Synastry. You have probably seen very simple attempts at sun sign comparisons that are supposed to indicate your compatibility with another. This is an oversimplistic way of looking at potential relationships. The serious study of astrology acknowledges that there is much, much more to a person than their sun sign, and that considering them with less than the whole picture sells them short.
Types of relationships
Relationships come in many forms: lover, friend, parent, child, teacher, mentor, coach, boss, colleague, and business partner, to mention a few. All these relationships will differ in purpose, duration, energy, and quality. How energy is connected and exchanged will define the relationship’s purpose and quality. Where it may be compatible and where it will face challenges. Understanding the purpose of a relationship is beneficial, as is understanding how it works. What is particularly useful is how to maximise the good stuff and make the challenging aspects work for us.
Romantic or Life Partner Relationships
As previously identified, there are many types of relationships. However, I find that most people are concerned about attracting the right life partner or getting along better with their current partner or love interest to deepen their connection.
In romantic relationships, according to one of the masters of synastry, Sargent (1970, pg. 13-18), there are two essential elements: attraction and endurability. Sargent defines attraction as being drawn by some winning influence, charm, allure, to entice, to win…if you are attracted to another person, you are interested, curious, have a friendly feeling and are disposed to look with favour on that person. [He states] you’ll pursue and encourage acquaintanceship… [Then] we have the basis for romance. Naturally, attraction is the first step in a relationship. If there is no attraction, most people won’t explore it further. Some relationships, whilst making us feel good, are not destined for permanency; this is reflected in the horoscope. For the relationship to be considered long-lasting, another set of energy exchanges comes into play. These additional connections can often be challenging, yet they provide the basis for personal growth and relationship endurability.
What type of person should I look for?
In judging a Love/Marriage relationship chart, at least 26 possible connections suggest attraction. Not all of these need to be present; however, the more that are, the more likely the attraction. Although not as simple as providing a Sun sign like Gemini or Leo, the astrologer can quite accurately comment on what the individual finds attractive and what they are looking for in a mate. Endurability requires other combinations and explains why we find some people very attractive, yet the relationship never seems to get past first base!
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